Forgiveness, I am told, is an important part in healing, letting go and moving on. But I don't think it's fair to be "expected" to forgive when the individual perpetrators have not been available to take responsibility for their actions upon children. None of us know what currently goes on in the minds of the adults who treated us poorly, neglected us, or abused us. How can I possibly begin to presume that they feel any sense of personal responsibility?
I do know that Nanak Dev Singh does not. He's off in Germany attempting to lead his own little "gatka" cult. In this way, I presume his Euro followers are not aware that he used to beat up on kids and that if they found out they would not follow him or take his classes. Since Yogi Bhajan's death many members of 3HO (the ones who considered themselves part of his elite inner circle) are going off to new "frontiers" and gathering new followers. Maybe, just maybe, Americans are starting to wise up to all this cult shit, seeing that many yoga teachers are nothing but a bunch of hypocritical phonies who just want to fuck their students and preach about a "lifestyle" they know nothing about. Alot of people take yoga not to be inundated with religious dogma, yet find themselves in that inevitable situation.
I know I have experienced that even outside of the 3HO community. Almost every yoga class I've been to has some form of preachy-culty-dogma attached.
...Oh wait I was supposed to be talking about forgiveness. The whole roundabout discussion is just a window into the human condition: people will continue to exploit people and children. It does not make me any "better" a person to forgive abhorrent behavior. Forgiveness is only possible when it's a two-way street, so in no way do I feel that I owe it to myself to forgive some bastard for being abusive. I feel there are better ways to move on.