Letter to Siri Akal

The following is an excerpt from an email I sent to Siri Akal, who was headmaster of GRD Academy, the first of a series of 3HO led boarding schools in India, est. 1989. It's been a few months now, and he has yet to reply. I figured, since he probably doesn't care, why not just publish it for everyone to see? He is now headmaster of Chapel Hill Chauncey Hall Boarding School

..."You may feel like it's ancient history, as you've moved on and are now headmaster at another boarding school (big surprise!), but you need to know what it was like for us as children. First off, all children in 3HO were considered public property, therefore any adult stranger felt they had the right to discipline any child, for any reason. I know that this was a system set in place by Yogi Bhajan - and I do know the coercive tactics that were used by him and his inner circle. That being said, EVERY adult who was put in charge of children had a responsibility to protect those children and to comfort them and show them love and affection - all qualities that were severely lacking while at both GNFC and GRD. Us children were placed thousands of miles away from their parents, in a foreign and institutionally abusive environment. The American "guides" should have been there to protect us - yet is was the American "guides" that I loathed and feared the most. If it wasn't physical assault or battery upon one of us, it was the condoning of corporal punishment and public humiliation, and on top of that almost daily emotional abuse. When I was a teenager, at GRD, had a little more autonomy and was therefore less susceptible to your methods, I'd observe YOU ridiculing and harassing 7 and 8 years-olds, publicly humiliating them and tormenting them. These were little children!!

"I have clear memories of many a "lecture" from either yourself or Hari Kaur. As an adult, I now know those lectures were pointless exercises in emotional abuse upon a child. There was no productive purpose. But what it felt like as a child was someone "reaming" me emotionally, telling me I was no good, that I was ugly, that I was fat, and that I was a slut.

"I think that by far the worst treatment by yourself and Hari Kaur was in your attitude towards the girls - The whole school was told, by you during breakfast, that NONE of us deserved to have food because we were all "too fat", meanwhile the boys were given more food. We were told by both of you that we were "ungraceful" sluts if we were seen even so much as holding hands with a boy. The ones of us who showed the highest in scholastic achievement were told we weren't "smart enough", and were often ridiculed in class if our answers were wrong, meanwhile half a dozen boys were being allowed to skip a grade (not that it was a great service to any of them today). If there is any one common memory of all the 2nd generation women raised in 3HO, it's that we were systematically and repeatedly told that "if we didn't behave like shaktis" we would wind up as prostitutes, drug addicts, the list goes on. The emotional impact that these kinds of messages send to young girls is devastating to say the least, and 3HO should consider itself very lucky that the majority of us as grown women are strong, independent, self sufficient feminists - IN SPITE of this treatment. However the hurdles that many of us have had to overcome as a clear result of institutionalized and repeated neglect, abuse, trauma and chaos are not to be overlooked or diminished.

"I hope this letter helps to send the message that all is not well, and shan't be until the adults responsible take some accountability for their very poor behavior while in India."